The Yogi Therapist

       Welcome and welcome back! I've been contemplating writing a post similar to this one on and off for awhile now. Maybe it's because I just got married this weekend, but the time seems right. I once read a quote that went, "everyone wants to change the world but no one wants to change the toilet paper". Honestly, I feel the same way about living life. Everyone wants to be alive for vacations, weddings, buying houses, having babies, and holidays, but we get bogged down by daily life. Life isn't the next vacation or your wedding day. Well, it is. But it's so much more! Let's take a look at what it means to truly live life moment by moment. The Concept      Imagine being asleep for 23.5 hours each day. You're awake for 30 minutes to connect with others, take care of yourself, spend time on your hobbies, notice the world around you, and experience life. Well guess what - when you forget that you have a body, that you're breathing, and that you exi...

           Welcome and welcome back! A few weeks ago I published 'Improving Your Relationship through Conflict' and it just didn't feel complete, so I wanted to go back and revisit a few things. I encourage you to check out the original if you haven't, but here's a few things to note: the way you and your partner interact during conflict affects your entire relationship; your personal well-being affects the well-being of your relationship (and vice versa); and the most important things to remember during a conflict are to prioritize loving kindness for yourself and your partner and to stay relaxed. Essentially, it boils down to a spinoff of Winston Churchill's famous saying, 'keep calm and be kind to yourself and others'. That's all true. Now I want to get a little more specific about some important behaviors during conflict and why it matters.  The Concept There is a scale specifically designed to measure the presence of a variety of behaviors that ...

       Welcome and welcome back! The title might sound a little counter-intuitive. It might even go against your beliefs about relationships and how they work. Conflict is a bad thing, right? That means we're arguing and angry. Conflict means our relationship isn't going well. Have no fear! Over the next couple of minutes, we're going on a roller coaster ride through false information about relationships and on to destination peace and harmony.  The Concept      Everything I talk about here is going to be directed at adult romantic relationships; however, the same principles can be applied with only slight modification to friendships, coworker relationships, family relationships, and so forth even down to your grocery store cashier. At its core, 'relationship' is just a word that means there is some type of connection between two things. According to Robert Sternberg, adult romantic relationships ideally consist of three things: passion (sex), com...